Why do I enjoy coming up with theories from time to time? Because while scientists, professors, and famous people rightly use facts as the ultimate arbiter of truth, I like to experiment and analyze every-day-life situations that usually only credit or discredit ideas / frameworks that some theorist has previously invented, but adding a little more humor, spice, sauciness to it.
A few days ago, my friend Adria and I were enjoying lunch during our work break, and she told me a story she has heard of a couple of days before. It’s the typical story that girlfriends share in the attempt to either have a laughter, have empathy, or… thinking of a solution!
“Once upon a time, a girl and a boy met (just for the romantic side of it)
She was new in the little town and didn’t know anybody, and one evening, with dreamy-eyes-of-a-dear and delight, she crashes an ‘after hour’ party and meets the Boy.
After some time – a few weeks according to close sources – and some flirty talk and smile, the two go on a date. What for her seemed a nice, caring and listening moment where she could express herself and her thoughts, for him it was an emotional torment that he didn’t except for a first date.
A couple of hours later, the boy couldn’t wait for to go back home… Within a little time, he had learnt the most he could possible ask for, so much information and insight thoughts that seemed too much for a ‘first date’. The image of what initially seemed like an Interesting and Intriguing Girl suddenly couldn’t fit the same frame.
A week goes by and the Girl asks the Boy out. But surprisingly, he keeps being busy and unavailable. The Girl, not sure of what is going on, doesn’t give up and keeps calling and getting the same reply “Sorry, I’m very busy these days”
The Girl tries again the following day, “I’ll be around your area, do want to meet?” and he said “No, you know what? the gang is meeting at the Prancing Pony Pub, let’s go there!”, “But I want to see you”, “… but I want to see the gang, not just you”.
The ‘Nice Magazine Cover’ Theory
As she kept telling the story, I couldn’t help but thinking of what I would do in her shoes, possible scenarios, detours in crucial moments, and bla bla bla
And suddenly, it hit me! The Girl probably didn’t know of how important a first date is, so in order to turn the edge into her direction she needs to apply a new approach, the Nice Magazine Cover strategy! I’m sure every girl on the planet knows what I mean, they just didn’t think of it with this name.
First dates are crucial, is when first impressions hit the hardest so it’s important to display the best of ourselves because it will be THIS memory the one that will endure the most in the mind of the other one. And actually for girls is even easier, we just need to smile and be nice.
Therefore, appearance, scent, smile, posture, and speaking will be the first and only things under consideration!
So, back to the story. If the Girl wants to attract the Boy again, she needs to apply the following strategy. Let’s imagine the same Guy standing in front of a kiosk full of magazines.
She needs to go from “looking” like this:
To “looking” like this:
If you guys were standing in front of a magazines kiosk, wouldn’t this one catch your eye if it was next to the previous one? 🙂
And by the way, this is not a guys-only rule.